You may have spent years in a relationship where you ignored all the red flags. It’s easy to make excuses for bad behavior when we are trying to make it work. Now that you are single, again you need to learn to pay attention to those red flags. It will keep you from sailing, head first into disaster and another failed relationship. Here’s How To Spot Red Flags:
Avoidance
Some people absolutely refuse to deal with an issue or problem in a relationship. If you find yourself in a relationship with an avoider, you will probably spend most of your time focused on finding solutions to problems in the relationship. You can bet the avoider won’t help you so, most of the responsibility for the relationship will fall on you.
An avoidant requires unconditional approval of everything they do. If what they do is spend most of their time judging everything you do and say and then, eventually walking away.
Accountability
If you are sitting at the dinner table with your date and they go on and on about how their ex destroyed their marriage, their boss makes life at work miserable and their neighbour is the reason they have a broken fence…run, run fast!
They are not accountable for their actions or anything that is happening in their lives. When their world starts to fall apart due to their own lack of responsibility you can bet it will be someone else’s fault.
Passive-Aggressive
Originally, this military term referred to people who appeared to comply with an order yet actually undermined what they seem to be doing. They are their own worst enemy and yours also.
The passive – aggressive doesn’t know how to say “that makes me angry.” They are very talented at stabbing you in the back and smiling at you the entire time. They come off as being such good people, someone who would never do anything to hurt you. All the while they are secretly punishing you and in ways that cause you to think you might be going crazy.
If you find yourself in a relationship with someone who seems to be too good to be true then, they probably are too good to be true.
Related article: Signs of An Unhealthy Relationship
