Ready for a committed relationship? Here are seven quick tips to making a great impression on the first date. Some of these guidelines are just basic common sense, while others might surprise you.
1. If you are nervous with dating, plan the first date to include an event, such as a movie, museum, concert or walk, along with talk time.
If you’re shopping for a relationship you need to invest time to give yourself the chance not to dismiss a keeper too soon and to make sure the two of you have more going for you than desire.
2. Do acquire a multitude of subjects you’re able to talk about.
Women who talk about their work all the time are no more interesting than men who talk about their work all the time. Have many interests to talk about including and particularly, your date..
3. Remember that your date is your date — not your spiritual adviser or therapist.
Save your real or perceived problems and flaws until you know she or he is deeply interested in you or at least interested. The goal of a first date is to have a good time and to contribute at least 50 percent of the effort toward achieving that goal.
4. Shop with your brain as well as your heart.
Do realise the sexiest, most attractive person is not necessarily the best choice for you. So don’t get carried away by your hormones until you fill out the list of characteristics you would like in a partner.
For example, a “wishlist” for appearance could be 6’ tall with dark hair but if you’re negotiable and meet 5’9+ and with hair, this creates a bigger dating pool!
5. Develop your communication abilities.
If you need to be a better listener, practice listening. If you need to be more self-revealing, practice expressing yourself more.
You can’t feel loved if you don’t feel understood and you can’t feel understood if you are unable to communicate who you are.
6. Do be prepared for rejection — it happens.
So get really good at handling it. If you suffer a major loss, grieving is necessary. But not getting a second or third date isn’t major loss. It is the opportunity to move on and find the person who does want to be with you.
Remember: The main point is to be yourself and work toward and believe in a positive outcome. When you do, dating will be pleasurable and the outcome that follows will be healthier and more productive.