After a break up or heart break, we often second guess ourselves and stay single simply because we’re scared to open our hearts again… Often, it takes someone else to point out our great qualities with clarity before we can see them in ourselves…

Reasons Someone Might Fall in Love with You

 

If you are not too keen

A 2020 study found that men in a speed-dating experiment wanted a woman more when she wasn’t obviously interested. Okay, not so hard to get that your love interest thinks you’re just not interested but enough to initiate that “chase”.
Try this: No matter how much you feel like your date is the perfect one for you, take it easy, go on more dates before you come clean about how you feel. It’s also less rushed and looks like you’ve thought it through. However, there is nothing wrong with telling your date you enjoy their company.

Your facial expression

According to a 2021 experiment published in the National Library of Medicine, men rated women most attractive when they looked happy. But beware, they rated women least attractive when they displayed pride. Women, on the other hand, rated men most attractive when they displayed pride and least attractive when they looked happy. Funny, huh? Interestingly, shame was ranked pretty attractive in both men and women.

Your hand gestures

It’s time to get moving, people! Literally. In one 2021 study involving men and women in speed-dating sessions revealed that people were twice as likely to say that they wanted to see the people who moved their hands and arms, compared to dates who sat still. The same study also showed that people who had a more open posture are selected more often than those with contractive postures.

Try this: Use more hand gestures when you are communicating with your date. Avoid crossing your arms and hunching your back. Instead, keep a good straight posture and “open” up your arms. 

 

You’re both compatible with each other

When two people are really compatible, they can really connect. At Ideal, Linda and the team work hard to ensure that the matches are compatible because compatibility is the building block of a relationship.
Try this exercise: Ask yourself,
• Do you have similar values and beliefs about the world?
• Do you have fun together? Can you be spontaneous? Do you think your partner’s at least pleasant looking? Do you like to travel together?
• Does each person think the other is bright? Are you good at solving problems together? If the answer is yes, there is a good chance Love is on it’s way.

 

 

Recovering from a Breakup: Proven Ways to Heal

Take some time off and let it out
You know, you don’t have to hold it in. Give yourself some time to mourn. After all you are suffering from a loss. Cry, scream, get angry and upset and let it all out. But then, once you have all that out of your system, your focus is on finding that happy place again.

Talk to supportive people
It helps to surround yourself with people who you can talk to and support you. People who are positive and with perspective. At the end of this, you want to be able to see the good instead of the bad.

Getting enough sleep and eating well are so important for the body to heal. Top that up with exercise to help clear your mind. Exercising produces Endorphins (happy hormones) and after a break up, this is exactly what you need.

Pamper yourself
There are many ways to pamper yourself. If you like spas and massages, go ahead, book yourself that relaxing treatment. If you love golf, why not, book that golf holiday where all you do is tee off, swing and putt! For others it might be a nice yoga retreat, a staycation or even buying something special for yourself. No judgements here!

Meet new people
And here’s probably the scariest step — meeting new people. But this is something you need to do to sort of reset yourself. You don’t necessarily meet people with the intention to date but just to get yourself out there, see new faces and who knows, it could lead you to your Love interest.

Set firm boundaries
Part of healing is to avoid hurting yourself again. So if you’ve decided to end a relationship and move on, that is exactly what you should be doing. Don’t revisit the past, don’t dial old numbers or even thinking of meeting up again with someone who has disappointed you before. You’ve gotten yourself out of there, now focus on being happy and finding someone who will Love you for you.