Why are relationships so hard today? Why do we often fail at love, despite trying so hard? Why have humans suddenly become so inept at making relationships last? Have we forgotten how to love? Or worse, forgotten what love is?
We’re not prepared for the sacrifices, for the compromises, for unconditional love. We’re not ready to invest all that it takes to make a relationship work. We want everything easy. Many of us are quitters. All it takes is a single hurdle to make us crumble to our feet. We don’t let our love grow, we let go before time.
For many it’s not love that they are looking for, only excitement and a thrill in life. They want someone to watch movies and party with, not someone who understands them even in their darkest moments. They spend time together, but don’t make memories. These people don’t want a partner for life, just someone who can make them feel alive right now. When the excitement fades, they discover nobody ever prepared them for the mundane of every day life.
For busy people chasing materialistic dreams – there’s often no scope to love.
These days we look for instant gratification in everything we do – the things we post online, the careers we choose, and the people we date. We want the maturity in a relationship that comes with time, yet true emotional connections develops over years and some of us just do not have the patience to wait.
Singles today would rather spend an hour with a hundred people than spending a day with one. They believe in having ‘options’. Often jumping into casual relationships at the slightest attraction and step out, the moment they find someone better. They want them to be perfect but rarely give any of them a real chance.
Technology has brought us all closer and yet our physical presence has been replaced by texts, voice messages, snapchats and video calls. We don’t feel the need to spend time together anymore we already know too much about each other…there’s nothing left to talk about.
We’re a generation of ‘wanderers’ who wouldn’t stay at one place for too long. Everyone is commitment phobic. We believe we’re not meant for relationships. We don’t want to settle down. Even the thought of it is scary. We cannot imagine being with one person for the rest of our lives. We walk away. We despise permanence like its some social evil. We like to believe we’re ‘different’ than the rest. We like to believe we don’t conform to social norms.
We’re the hook-up-break-up generation. We have sex first and then decide if we want to love someone. Sex comes easy, loyalty doesn’t. You do it not because you love the other person, but because you want to feel a temporary fulfillment. Relationships aren’t that simple anymore, there are open relationships, friends with benefits, causal flings, one-night stands, no strings attached – we’ve left very little exclusivity for love in our lives.
We’re the practical generation who runs by logic alone. We don’t know how to love madly anymore. We wouldn’t take a flight to a far-off land just to see someone we love. We’d break up because, long distance. We’re too sensible for love. Too sensible for our own good.
People today are scared to fall in love, scared to commit, scared to fall, scared to get hurt, scared to get their hearts broken or be vulnerable, so they are missing out on finding someone just perfect for them.
There’s nothing we couldn’t conquer in this world, and yet, many are ham-strung at the game of love – the most basic of human instincts.