The Difference Between Love and Lust

“Am I actually in love or just infatuated?” You must have asked yourself that question at one point. It’s normal to wonder if it’s love or lust because you want to know if the relationship can survive beyond the sexual connection. Find out more as Linda reveals The Difference Between Love and Lust.

LOVE

1. A Loving Attachment: Love is a secure, caring attachment with a romantic partner which involves a deep affection, trust, and acceptance of a person, flaws and all. It’s not just about sex.

2. The focus is on the person: Love is interest in getting to know the person over time.

3. Real Growth: Love expands to having real conversations and exploring true emotions whether positive or painful. These moments are what help us learn about each other and find a way to weather the storm and come back stronger.

4. We Reveal More: Love motivates us to reveal a lot about ourselves to the other person. When we’re in love, we want to share our dreams, our fears, our goals, our past, our future. We might tell them secrets that we’ve never told anyone before.

LUST

1. A Sexual Attraction: An intense sexual attraction to another person that draws us to someone and allows for deep physical connection.

2. The focus is in the sex: Lust alone is interest only in the partner sexually.

3. Stays Stagnant: Lust attempts to keep the relationship less complicated, on an ideal level, so it doesn’t affect the sexual attraction. Therefore the relationship doesn’t progress on a personal and emotional level.

4. We Hold Back: When we’re in lust, you only peel away a few layers of our personalities. We tell the other person about our hobbies, our movie or music preferences, but that’s about it. We don’t go to the deep core of ourselves.