Way before a real connection is made, there is an unseen and unspoken checklist. What do women look for in a man before falling for him? Apart from the charming personality, good physique and wonderful sense of humor, these are things women look for in a man when looking for that ideal match.
A man who’s not a pushover.
Yes, no one wants to say it but it is one of the first things women look at. It’s okay to not be confrontational but it’s important to have a spine. Don’t ever be taken for granted by anyone. If you feel you’re being wronged, learn to voice your opinion instead of being implosive.
A confident man.
Okay, you’ve heard this before but truthfully, confidence is a great trait to have for any man. It’s an inner strength that’s seen and envied by anyone you meet. A confident man is more attractive to women. It’s because he believes in himself and his abilities, and he doesn’t chicken out when he knows he’s right.
It’s not about looking like the Men’s Health cover, it’s more about showing that you do take care of yourself. Dress well and look good no matter where you are. It’s a simple tip, but something almost all guys never focus on. Groom yourself well with quality man products and complex perfumes that smells great on you. And women love a great smelling man.
A good job.
You do want the truth, right? It’s better to face the truth than pretend like money doesn’t matter. Of course it does! But it’s not all that they look at. Genuine women of course do not go out of their way to find a millionaire, but a man with a good job and a nice salary is also a man that is stable and secure. They will want to buy a house with you, build a life together, and it all starts with being financially stable. Remember, not filthy rich but stable.
Be assertive in your behavior.
Women love a man who’s not fickle minded. Have an ego (don’t confuse this with stubbornness) and believe in yourself and your decisions. As hard as this may seem, be the man who can put someone else in place when they overstep the line or misbehave with you.
A good conversationalist.
Just like a good sense of humor, knowing how to speak to a woman is a quality that all women look for in a man. Be pleasant, speak smoothly in a low tone and show genuine interest in the woman while speaking to her. Create conversations around her and make her have a nice time with you. Remember, being a great conversationalist also means being a great listener.
A man who’s respected by others.
Women like to be respected by the man they like, but they also like being with a guy who’s respected by others. If someone doesn’t respect you, is it your own fault? If it is, try to get better. If it isn’t your own fault, walk away from them. Or stand up and claim the respect you deserve from them.
A man who is respectful.
Be respectful towards others when they deserve your respect. All good-natured women like a well mannered and kind man who doesn’t treat others badly just because he can. Don’t be rude to waiters and treat everyone with respect and you’ll be treated with respect. Women see kind men as good fathers, and it’s a trait that women instinctively like. Have good etiquette and treat women chivalrously, and you’ll notice them warming up to you almost instantly.
Make her feel comfortable in her skin.
Women like a man who makes them feel at ease within the first few minutes of a conversation. Be the guy who can take away the air of nervousness in a first conversation while talking to a woman and she’ll like you for it. Indulge in a pleasant conversation and ensure that she feels involved and excited to talk to you.
A compatible personality.
Now this is where a matchmaker can come in handy. You may be a great guy, but at times both of you may just be way too incompatible for each other. She may like you, but she may not be willing to date you for her own reasons of compatibility. Talking to a professional matchmaker can help you understand more about compatibility. Sometimes, the reason you have not found The One is because you could have been looking for the same type of women who are not compatible with you in the first place. A professional matchmaker can help you focus on your date’s interests and learn about her likes and dislikes while talking to her so you know the right things to say at the right time. If she feels compatible with you and your personality, and thinks you’ll get along with her friends and family, she’ll definitely like you.
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