How they keep their commitments
Okay, we’re not expecting everyone to be super punctual 100% of the time, especially when some things are out of their control. Things like emergencies, work, family and well, life! It’s important to be understanding in these situations. However, if someone is rarely keeping their commitments, it reveals a lot about themselves. If they are always late, always cancelling on you, always rescheduling, it’s not a healthy pattern. This shows that this person is someone who isn’t reliable, doesn’t hold themselves accountable for the things they say, or worse, doesn’t value you all that much.
Real-life story: “I used to be good friends with Samantha. We had a lot of fun together. She is well known for her tardiness but it didn’t bother me even though I was always made to wait for her to arrive. The last straw was when she was late for my sit-down birthday dinner party. She walked in the moment we took our first bite”.
When we allow such behaviour we are being an enabler.