1. Drop expectations.
If you’re demanding that your date show up a certain way, you’ll miss the opportunity to enjoy what’s actually in front of you. Get clear on what your must-haves and deal-breakers are, but stay open to possibility.

2. Intend to have fun… no matter what.
No more “The goal of this date is to find a husband/wife!” pressure. Keep it light. That’s where the flow gets flowing.

3. Be present.
Projecting 20 years into the future within five minutes of a first date distracts you from the getting-to-know-you process. Slow it down and let things reveal themselves.

4. Become the kind of person you’d like to date.
Is it possible you haven’t yet met the (likely insanely high) standards you hold for someone you want to date? Get good with yourself and you’ll start to attract perfect-for-you people into your life in dating and everywhere else.

5. See every date as an opportunity for some fun new conversation.
Meeting new people is fun, right? At worst it’ll make for a good story. Again, keep it light.

6. Go into every date intending to learn something about yourself.
When you focus on growth, no date is a bad date. Let each experience make you an even better person.

7. View your dates as great practice for when you do meet the person you really want to be with.
Even if this person doesn’t turn out to be a fit for you, you’ll walk away with useful information moving forward. Grow and go.

8. Don’t over-analyse.
Do your friends really need to hear how it’s going while your date’s in the bathroom after your first drink together? Sit tight. Let things unfold without outside opinions clouding your own.

9. Trust your gut.
Deep down, you know when a next date is a thumbs up or a thumbs down. Follow the energy.

10. Say “yes” when you mean yes and “no” when you mean no.
No more going on a second date just because you felt too badly to say no. Clear space for the next great date to come in—no guilt required.

11. Let things unfold.
If it’s meant to move forward, it will. No need to force anything.

12. Ditch the hype.
Be mindful about letting your hopes snowball before you’ve even met this person. Take it one step at a time.

13. Don’t worry about “just being yourself”.
Get out of your head. Go on the date and just be there. Be present, intend to have a great time, and your awesome Self will naturally shine through.

14. Drop judgment.
They’re going to have quirks. You’ve got a few, too. Leave room for humanness—that’s where the good stuff is.

15. Focus on enjoying your life.
The less energy you spend worrying about meeting the partner of your dreams, the more you’ll be able to enjoy them when they actually show up. Create some breathing room so he/she can enter your life.

16. Drop attachment to outcome.
If you go into a date with the intention to be open and enjoy the process, whatever’s meant to unfold will unfold. (You clinging like a barnacle won’t turn something that’s not meant to be into something that is.)

17. Stop comparing your dates to your exes (or anyone else).
Give this human being a chance to reveal themselves.

18. Trust the process.
Relax. No need to rush. Let things unfold. When it’s time (according to the universe, not your ego), the right relationship will come.

Try on a few of these practices and you’ll likely find yourself on a date with an amazing person who it might just turn out will make this whole dating thing worthwhile.